Teaching kids about the skills of consent can help reduce sexual coercion, harassment, and even assault.
The ASK. LISTEN. RESPECT. video was created for tweens and teens ages 11-16 to show concrete examples of:
how to ask for consent;
what enthusiastic, verbal consent looks like, and;
how to respond to “no” respectfully.
You can use the video and accompanying discussion guides (one for PARENTS, one for GROUP FACILITATORS) to spark conversations with teens about respectful relationships, the importance of consent, and how teens can ask for and give consent in their friendships and dating relationships.
The ASK. LISTEN. RESPECT. video was created to promote healthy relationships among tweens and teens by providing concrete examples of how to ask for consent, what enthusiastic, verbal consent looks like, and how to accept “no” as normal boundary-setting in relationships.
The video and two accompanying discussion guides (one for PARENTS, one for GROUP FACILITATORS) can be used in a classroom setting, with a small group of tweens/teens, or one-on-one with an adult who can lead an informed discussion.
Not all 11-16 year olds are dating, but most have probably thought about what it means to be in a dating relationship.
Attitudes and beliefs formed during these critical years will most likely affect how they treat their dating partners now and in the future.
According to the National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey Report¹:
• 1 in 5 females and 1 in 7 males who ever experienced rape, physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner, first experienced some form of intimate partner violence between 11 and 17 years of age.
• More than half of all rapes of females occur before age 18; 22% occur before the age of 12.
• Adolescent girls who experience dating violence are more likely to exhibit other serious behaviors such as substance abuse, increased suicide attempts, unhealthy weight control, and risky sexual behavior.
Sexual violence is a big problem in young dating relationships in part because teens are not clear on what consent means, nor how to ask for it.
¹Black MC, Basile KC, Breiding MJ, Smith SG, Walters ML, Merrick MT, Chen J, Stevens MR. The National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey (NISVS): 2010 Summary Report. Atlanta, GA: National Center for Injury Prevention and Control, Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 2011.